Men in NYC have a competitive advantage in dating. Our guesstimation is that there is one single straight man in Manhattan for every five single women who are actively looking for a serious relationship. A ratio of 1:5 is tough, for women that is! Single men probably love it and they are more than happy to keep swiping right. Why not? All the options are in their hands. What do they have to lose? They don’t have an expiration date, like women do. Right? Wrong!
Some men act like babies. They want to enjoy whatever their freedom brings them and when a romantic relationship gets too difficult or bleak, they lose interest and turn the page. Based on the above ratios, the odds are definitely in their favor! A smart man could learn from the mistakes of others. Case in point: Jack Nicholson.
Recently, the 77-year-old actor gave an interview to Closer Magazine where he publicly admitted and also lamented his fear that he will die alone. I won’t get into Nicholson’s dating history, but if you would like to know the details, here is a very extensive timeline of his dates and hookups throughout the years. I find it interesting that, as a dating expert that listens to people’s dating obstacles all day, Jack Nicholson’s confession dominated the news cycle, especially in the UK.
Nicholson says, ”I don’t think relationships are fixed things. People are necessarily complex and confused beings. We don’t always do the right thing, say the right thing and behave the way we always want to behave.” He also added: “No woman has ever recognised what I say as being legitimate – they don’t trust me. They think of my reputation – Jack the Jumper – so I’m damned by what women think.” These are some pretty tough realizations to admit, and I can empathize observing Nicholson. However, he brought this on himself. Instead of dating women that would have been compatible, he attracted women to his celebrity. That rarely ever works, at least long term anyway.
The lesson here, gentlemen: If you think you have time to grab a good apple, you don’t. Nurturing a relationship, making it work, proving commitment… these elements of a relationship take time. While it certainly makes it easier, no amount of power, money, or celebrity will exempt you from finding true love- the kind that lasts a lifetime.
Are you scared you’re walking the same steps as dear old “Jackie”? I recommend you read Thought Catalog’s “24 Signs You Are Going To Die Alone“. If you find yourself agreeing to much of the article, you may need help! Take a breather, reflect on your lifestyle and how they influence the endeavors you’ve set out for your future. Heck, reach out to an expert if you really need to! Oh, and get to it WAY before you reach Jack’s age!
