When you’re single, everyone tries to tell you which qualities to look for in the person you’ll want to spend the rest of your life with.
Your parents may tell you to look for someone with strong career goals and healthy finances (#yawn). Your best friend may say you need to seek out committed types who choose you over Sunday night football (because she KNOWS, girl).
While it’s helpful to hear others’ input, it’s always a good idea to have your own list of must-haves for your next relationship. After all, this is your ideal life-long partner we’re talking about.
So, if you’re looking to see what you should add to your SO wish list, peep what these nine matchmakers admit are the most important things you should look for in your next lover.
Find someone who shares the same values as you.
I always tell my clients that the number one thing to look for in a partner is someone who shares the same values you do: family, time and money.
Family values influence decisions, and this provides a system in which we learn to guide our behavior toward others. Sharing the same views in how you value time and money signifies that a couple is a lifestyle match.
All of these three things are measures of compatibility that can help build a platform to relationship success, especially when paired with strong communication skills.
– Maria Avgitidis, founder and head matchmaker at agapematch.com